Its hard to stay with old people. Well, it’s not the just-retired old ppl i am saying, but to be exact – elderly. N by WHO definition, elderly is >60 yrs old. While elderly ppl had shown success in the socioeconomic developement, it also challenges the new generation for ppl like us to adapt to them rather than vice-verse. Its always like tat, n thus maybe this is wat filial piety is about.
I never know i got such limited capacity of patience towards old ppl. It is put to test during this stay in KL for my holiday break before starting to work. It changed a new perspective of how i will deal with the elderly later on. Lemme have my few words..
The elderly have 1 common trait among them, which is trying to prove that they are still useful. Yes, i wouldn’t agree more that most of the population among elderly are useful in many ways, well probably not as during their younger times but at least their functional capacity are still at the optimal level in a deteriorating trend. This trait is the one that i have the least patience to. While they try so hard to prove something that they stil can do, they never realize that more trouble are being created along the way of proving. And on top of it, any advice from the younger ppl will deemed as challenge to their capability. It will be disregarded as ‘looking down’ on them, and thus, they will take it hard, when we are actually trying to make things better for everyone. Its like, trying to keep the salted fishes dry when weather is pouring heavily. Instead of going against the rain and trying to collect as much as possible of those dried salted fishes, why not we get a huge water-proof cloth to cover them temporary, rite? Morover, sunshine gonna be there after the rain, if not tmr, rite??
I’ve tried before to intercept in a few times. But ended up in frustration to myself only. Not only troubles summing more and more, but what i got in the end were mere outburst of frustration and anger by the other individual which I have no place in defending back. So, trait no.2 that i’ve learnt is that, they are real sensitive ppl. Sensitive especially when they felt their functional capacity being challenged, in which it was never meant to from the beginning. Everything ended up in TOLERANCE. I believe the strategy towards this by defending, is a defenite no-no. Not only in tolerance, occasionally still i have to intercept in – but in stealth mode.
For now, i am already having depression over the food. And guess wat today, i took 2 lunches. I took McD for my second lunch which is meant for self patting effort, and also to stimulate my tastebud for bon appetite for once.
I prayed hard to never deal with Geriatrics in my future. *sigh*